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A Better Way (Montessori Elementary Math)

Montessori math triangleIs there anything all Americans agree on?  Not much.  Here is one thing:  math education here could be a whole lot better.

Much is wrong.  One the one hand, American children do not perform well on international tests of basic math reasoning. US scores were below average compared to 64 other countries on the 2012 Program for International Student Assessment, or PISA.

On the other hand, American’s don’t really like math.  According to ChangeTheEquation.Org, 43% of women have said they “can’t do math.” Sixty-three percent of Americans report that they’ve had difficulty doing some type of math. And thirty percent say they would rather clean a bathroom than solve a math problem.

It is no surprise that Evergreen School, Montgomery County Public Schools and others want to provide a better experience for students. At Elementary Math Night, Evergreen parents discussed similarities and differences between Evergreen’s Montessori approach to math and the Everyday Math program in Montgomery County Public School’s Curriculum 2.0 initiative.

mmathMontessori Math and Everyday Math have much in common, but there are some fundamental differences.

First the similarities: both programs emphasize conceptual understanding, follow the standards of the national Association of Math Teachers, and support lots of hands on, manipulative-based learning (although Montessori math is almost exclusively hands on through the middle of lower elementary).  And both programs emphasize higher order thinking skills at younger ages than is typical in other US programs.

Some key differences: first, Montessori Math is mastery based.  A child will work on a concept until he has mastered it. Then he moves on.  Everyday Math, on the other hand, has a spiral curriculum.  On one day, a new concept is introduced and old concepts are reviewed and practiced, but mastery is not expected until the curriculum ‘spirals’ around for several rounds of practice.  A child may not get the chance to really understand a topic at first.

A second difference is pacing.  Montessori math moves at each child’s individual pace.  A child moves from concept-to-concept, skill-to-skill at her own readiness. Children receive one-on-one lessons from a teacher and then practice with hands-on materials.   In Everyday Math, all children get the same lesson on the same day, leaving higher ability children bored and lower ability children confused and frustrated. ???????????????????????????????

These differences are significant and directly lead to the problems noted above—dislike of math and–ultimately– lower achievement.  A child will not like math or feel capable if lessons aren’t tailored to her ability.  It is understandable that a child will grow to dislike math that isn’t aligned to herskill level or abilities.  An individualized math program best serves children and ensures their engagement and success.


John DeMarchi



p.s., Here is a nice example of a one-on-one Montessori math lesson on multiplication from Montessori Tides School in Jacksonville, Florida.



It’s Montessori Elementary

February 21, 2014 Leave a comment
Mrs. Sesko and Ms. Hatziyannis

Mrs. Sesko and Ms. Hatziyannis

The first thing you notice is the quiet.  What you can’t hear is the sound of children discovering their capacity to learn.

Stepping into our Elementary classroom invites you to whisper.  Why is it so quiet?  It takes a few seconds to register that this isn’t perfect silence; there are sotto voce conversations all around the room. These discussions are serious, focused and calm.  Standing in one of the out-of-the-way niches, I hear two children talking about multiplication. Two others talk about a frog’s anatomy. And I hear Mrs. Sesko giving a lesson about nouns. Mrs. Hatziyannis soundlessly reviews a child’s addition work. Other children are working alone, mostly in silence.  One hums.  It is clear, these children are using what we call their indoor voice.

The learning here is more that cataloging facts or acquiring data. In this mostly quiet, self-directed classroom, affective learning—the kind that fundamentally shapes the way children view themselves and their capacity to learn—is taking place.  If I could think of a better place to learn, I’d tell you.

There is a peaceful buzz in the Elementary classroom because children are engaged in activities that are meaningful, motivating and personal. Affective learning has been described as the fuel that students bring to the classroom. (**)  It connects them to the “why” of learning. Mrs. Sesko and Hatziyannis understand that motivation is as important as acquiring facts. Affect goes beyond simple enjoyment, and it plays a part in the development of persistence and deep interest in a subject. Teachers who emphasize skills and knowledge to the exclusion of emotion, turn off students and create adversarial relations with their students.

As you watch these Elementary students working, you will see that something extraordinary is happening.  This just isn’t like other classrooms.  Trevor Eissler, author and Montessori advocate wrote about his experience in a traditional classroom, “I remember two noise levels in [my] elementary school: very loud and very quiet. When the teacher’s back was turned, or she was out of the room, pandemonium broke out. As soon as she turned around or came back in the room and shouted, “Quiet! NOW!” there was a terrified hush. The noise bounced from one to the other: loud, quiet, loud, quiet, loud, quiet—punctuated by the teacher’s occasional shout.”

Why is our Elementary classroom different? Simply put: it is because the classroom culture is different.  Mrs. Sesko and Mrs. Hatziyannis believe that their students are naturally interested in learning.  Their role is to build upon their interest or at least preserve it.  The teachers have filled the room with age-appropriate challenges that their students want to master.  And rather than demanding that children submit to their will, the teachers have set up an environment that respects the child’s and channels it. The class culture builds each child’s self-concept of a person who is competent, capable, and self-directed. Being a multi-age classroom, of course, supports the idea that each child isn’t in a race or competition with each other, but is learning upon a path that is as customized and individualized as it is interesting and motivating.  This is respecting the child.

The notion of respect turns the typical teacher/student relationship on its head.  Mrs. Hatziyannis and Mrs. Sesko do not rule the classroom like authoritarian dictators.  They are facilitators.  Children have to ‘do the thinking’ to get the learning.  As teachers, their goal is to create the opportunity for the children to think.  There is not cat-and-mouse game of rule setting/rule breaking.  There is a team mentality and a sense of community and cooperation. As Eissler describes a Montessori classroom that contracts the one he grew up with, “The [Montessori] teacher was like a chess grand master. A grand master is one of only a handful of elite chess players so accomplished they can play five, even ten chess matches simultaneously. They stroll around a room of tables, each with a chess board and a determined challenger, glance at each board in turn, make a move, and stroll to the next board. This teacher reminded me of that type of demonstration. She had keen skills of observation and quick analysis. She glided about the room giving a nod here, a whisper there, a glance, a suggestion. Then she would sit on a chair and observe the room, taking notes.”

Ask yourself: what are the most important goals I have for my child in his or her elementary years?  Chances are your list will include the following: I want my child to…

  • Be inquisitive
  • Enjoy learning
  • Have a positive self-image
  • Have confidence about his or her capacity to learn
  • Acquire the skills and facts necessary for academic success

As I observe the quiet buzz of our Elementary classroom, I am delighted to see our children fulfilling our hopes.  It is worth a look yourself. Just use your indoor voice.


**Teaching Every Student in the Digital Age: Universal Design for Learning (2001) Chapter 6

David H. Rose & Anne Meyer

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What we call success…

February 3, 2014 Leave a comment

Montessori MapIf you are luckier and wiser than me, then you haven’t spent too much time fretting about the latest book by Tiger Mom Amy Chua.  As described in Time Magazine, “Chua’s most recent book, The Triple Package… looks at success in America—specifically why certain groups (Jews, Indians, Chinese, Iranians, Lebanese, Nigerians, Cubans, and Mormons) succeed. In a recent New York Times article, they offer a synopsis of the book, citing what they regard as the three pillars of success: (1) “a superiority complex—a deep-seated belief in their exceptionality”; (2) “insecurity—a feeling that you or what you’ve done is not good enough”; and (3) “impulse control”—essentially self-discipline.”

It would be nice if Chua defines ‘success’ as achieving a loving and generous self-concept and inner peace, but I suspect she’s talking about outward signs of success like social status, wealth and achievement.  Never-the-less, her three-item hypothesis seems to capture (and then super-size) some of the habits of character we emphasize at Evergreen.  That is, if a ‘superiority complex’ means ‘self-confidence’; a feeling that what you’ve done is not good enough means ‘drive or curiosity‘; and ‘impulse control’ means ‘patience,’ then her assessment may align with our school values.  At the end of the day, though, I suspect her book may leave us wanting a child-friendlier, unconditional-loving and more humane style of parenting. Let’s see.

I will download my Kindle edition tonight.

The Science of Learning

January 27, 2014 Leave a comment
Montessori Parent Education

Montessori Parent Education at Evergreen School

I am in awe every time I hear Evergreen teachers explain the Montessori approach to math and language learning.  Three times in the last two weeks, our teachers demonstrated what makes their methods so effective– at Open House, Kindergarten-Year Night, and Elementary Discovery Night.

As I listened to Ms. Liotta, Mrs. John, Mrs. Sesko and Mrs. Hatziyannis, I recognized what sets Montessori teachers apart from non-Montessori teachers: they think a lot about the science of learning.  Their starting point is the way a child perceives the world, the way he takes in information through the senses, the way he organizes experiences, and the way he connects prior knowledge.  The learning objective (multiply these two large numbers, read this non-phonetic word, identify parts of speech, etc) is an outcome of his experience– not the focal point.  And in the end, these teachers’ students learn skills far beyond what I ever believed is possible.

We are so fortunate to have such brilliant teachers.

“Since We Were Two.”

January 18, 2014 Leave a comment

Bat MitzvahDo you know the feeling? racing heart? sweaty palms?   It’s unnerving to speak to a ballroom full of strangers.  But on Saturday night, my daughter Isabel didn’t have any trouble.  I asked her if she wanted to say a few words at her friend Jordyn’s Bat Mitzvah.  She grabbed the microphone and answered, “Of course.  We’ve been friends since we were two.”

Isabel and Jordyn went to preschool together at Georgetown Hill eleven years ago.  Our families have stayed in touch ever since.  Isabel’s words—since we were two—remind me of the power of friendships that form in places like Evergreen.  Her words remind me of our obligation to nurture these relationships, plan playdates, reach out and make and sustain connections. They help our children feel tethered.  Being part of a school community is important– but it can take 11 years or more to recognize just how much it means to your children.

Learning How to Learn

November 18, 2013 Leave a comment

aanWhen did you learn how to learn?  For many of us, this insight was gained when we recognized that we are the ones most responsible for our achievement.

Learning to learn means knowing yourself, making a plan, and taking initiative. Our Montessori approach, particularly in the Elementary class, emphasizes the individual responsibility that each student takes in his or her own active learning.  Student choice, one-on-one lessons, and personal work plans all help children see themselves as primary agents in their education.

Our elementary students are full participants in their teacher/parent conferences.  It is one of the most powerful tools we use to help children understand their role in their learning.

The results are clear. Children enjoy a greater sense of pride in their accomplishments, feel more control, are significantly more motivated to learn, and develop an enhanced degree of independence.

Gratitude, the Overlooked Virtue?

November 11, 2013 1 comment

imagesRemember that list of attributes of high achieving 21st century kids? Perseverance, curiosity, self-control, optimism and conscientiousness.  Essential yes, but incomplete.   Gratitude may be the most important but overlooked virtue.  The benefits of a grateful attitude are well known, including greater emotional well-being and a more positive mood. While our culture shows that egotism is the path to success, gratitude is the path to happiness.

Our gratitude may be the best antidote and only hope against our culture’s consumerism.   Fortunately gratitude can be cultivated, modeled and taught.  Here’s just one advice column and another saying how. We ought to take more time giving thanks for our blessings–  precious children  most of all.

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